What we want is the ability to get angry and not sin.
Ephesians 4:26-32 tells us it is possible. Possible, not easy.
Anyone can become angry. That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way… that is not easy -Aristotle
Three things to ask yourself when considering your anger: (by no means comprehensive, just a starting place, something to remember)
1. How long did it continue?
-If anger cannot be subsided, it stops being about the circumstance or person, and starts being an issue of my heart. It represents an unwillingness to forgive, show temperance, or exhibit meekness
2. What did I conceed?
-Anger can develop into a place setting at the table of your heart for your enemy…
-The Bible says it is like allowing a seed to turn into a root, that rrot turns into a tree, and that tree will make room for itself in your soul. (Hebrews 12:15)
3. How did I communicate?
-Did the way I communicated make space in its recipient for the enemy? You often know what the hot buttons are…where the areas of most damage exist…did you push them?
-Did my communication tear down or build up? (edify)